Hugs, tea and a beautiful hello to you all!
As some of you may have noticed I have been away the past few weeks embracing the New Year. I apologize for not replying to emails but I have been internet free. Now home I have spent the past couple of days posting finished commissions all around the world and I still have a few more to touch up and post before the end of the week.
Quote: Caroline Cadwell: “In a society that profits from your self-doubt, liking yourself is a rebellious act”.
Why I went ‘poof’ for the past month.
In today’s society our level of success is measured often by the recognition we obtain not from accomplished goals but from recognition on social media. Something that was made ever more apparent over the past month for me as I cut myself off from any online media. I sat and marveled at my peers addiction as they ‘needed’ to update their Facebook pages with photos of their latest cooked meal or cute couple photo. People have always needed other people for encouragement and to know their achievements are valid and I suppose the online world in just the new, bigger medium.
Let’s be honest, I am no different. I upload artwork online for others to see, if I just wanted to back up my photos I could just email them to myself. So why do we feel this need to prove our achievements?
The more you post online about your life, the more you are trying to prove to yourself your success is real. It’s not about showing strangers that you have got it all figured out, it’s about making yourself feel secure based on how the world applauds you. We all know how it feels to upload a piece of artwork and to have no one comment, or worse negative comments. That looming feeling of failure haunts us, but what happened to the proud excited feeling of uploading a new piece?
Research shows the same parts of the brain are stimulated when we take drugs and when we feed out addiction to technology and its online gratification. Have you ever tried to disconnect for a few days? Weeks? I found it a great experience and to be honest after the first day I hardly thought of the internet at all. However the reality is most people encounter the same symptoms as junkies, alcoholics and smokers going though mild withdrawal. The feeling of Isolation, abandonment and irritability are quick symptoms people encounter with online withdrawal. For those of you who haven’t used the internet for more than a few hours – how tempted are you to peek at your notifications?
I chose to withdraw from social media for a few weeks as it was affecting my psychology. I was forgetting to just love being me. Social media has evolved in such a way that it can be unhealthy. For us to feel success regardless of our true accomplishments we need the worlds opinion, we need our friend’s and followers to ‘authorize’ it. The result: self-doubt, insecurity and depression. It would be inappropriate for me to use the words I want to use here to describe how truly, horrifyingly sad this is.
I don’t care who you are, everyone from their teens and beyond will look at their Facebook friends or just strangers and it will look like they have their whole lives figured out. It will seem like everyone except you will be growing up, being successful, moving on, living ‘perfectly’. It makes you feel insignificant, like a child hiding behind heels or a suit. And it is okay. Trust me, no matter who you are, no one is perfect. Everyone has problems, good days and bad. We just choose not to advertise the bad.
Social media allows us to carefully craft a reputation. It allows us to show what we want to show. You don’t want to know that my car leaks when it rains or that I am writing this in my PJ’s wearing no make-up. Online it’s easy to forget people aren’t perfect.
The substantiality of our lives is not dependent on our online attention. It’s not measured by comments, likes and shares. Accomplishments can be little, it can be as simple as getting out of bed in the morning, it doesn’t matter if its not ‘online worthy’. The tiniest triumphs can be all the difference.
Your happiness is not dependent on what others think.
Happiness is a feeling of contentment, that life is how it should be. Perfect happiness is hard to achieve, and even harder to maintain. There are nearly limitless degrees of happiness between the bliss of enlightenment and the despair of depression. Most of us fall somewhere between, closer to the middle than the edges.
Please, please don’t let the world of online society effect your state of happiness.
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Please Read! Please Help save my Family! (Update1)***Read Updates at the bottom
Im not sure how to do this but I try. Some of you know me fairly well, some of you know me a little, and some dont know me at all. I ask, no, I plead that you take your time to click the link below and read it whomever you are. It wont take that long, but it will mean everything to me and my family.
Some of you know or at least have a hunch that my living situation is very tough, Ive mentioned it but never told what it really is about. Ive been scared to share, felt ashamed, felt its my own fault, felt I should be strong enough to fix it myself. Somehow, in some way. But Ive tried everything, my whole family has tried everything but it keep failing and our strengh is running out. Ive never liked begging for help, it feel wrong to bother others. But things are spinning completely out of hand, my family is suffering badly for years and it only get worse and worse to the extent when I now fear for my pare
About the artist:|
“Creation is my passion. It is my first love.
Creating is like an exciting adventure, I never know where it will take me or what I will create. I consider it a privilege to be able to share my art and teach others what I have spent so long teaching myself.
I have been working on a new technique allowing my creations to be more sculpture and less plush. The resulting sculptures and maquettes are as soft as ever, have solid torsos with flexible extremities enabling the creatures to be posed into lifelike positions.
My aim is to blur the lines between ‘plush’ and ‘sculpture’, ‘real’ and ‘fantasy’.”
About the person:
“I am nothing special, what I know I have learnt through endless hours of trial and error. I have a love of learning, the dedication to practice and a true passion for my art. I didn’t study at an amazing art school nor have I been lucky enough to be tutored by an artist. I create because it is what I love doing”.
“Never be afraid to create.
Don’t strive to be ‘perfect’, there is no such thing.
Fight to be better.
Better than you where yesterday, better than you will be tomorrow.
Be the best you can be.
Create to the best of your ability”
- Rhiannon Woolf
© - all of my art is copyrighted under the Australian Copyright Act. Do not attempt to recreate or use without permission please.
Have a most marvelous day and be blessed